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Male/Male Romance – Q/A From a M/M Romance Virgin

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m-mromanceAt first glance when I see m/m romance I’m at a loss as to what it could possibly stand for; so I ask my fellow twitter pals just what is m/m romance? Monster and Monster romance, no, mister and mister….close,  and to my surprise, it’s male/male romance.   Initial gut reaction, yikes! Might not be my cup of tea.   My exposure to male/male romance has been extremly limited, J.R. Wards’s Black Dagger series (one minor m/m kiss), a late night documentary on HBO featuring the inside scoop on pornography actors who are “Gay for Pay,”  and a brief rendezvous with Kate Douglas’s Wolf Tales.    As I research further I’m stuck with all these questions I have as a hetero woman.  Do women actually read m/m romance? How popular is this genre?  Do I need thearapy?

Mandi aka Smexybooks, comes to my rescue to shed some light on this fascinating newish genere on why the heck would I read m/m romance?  So my challenge to myself is to read a full-fledged m/m romance to see what all the hype is about. If I didn’t stretch myself I’d still be reading historical romances written by Julie Garwood and missing out on all these great books.   So my challenge this year is to work up to read 1 m/m romance book with an open mind.  

 
Guest Interview with Mandi from Smexybooks
 

Smokinhotbooks: As my expert/guide on m/m romance: what is the 411, what can we expect for those of us who are m/m romance virgins?
 
Mandi (Smexy): I am definitely NOT an expert on m/m!! However, a year ago, I was a m/m virgin and for those who are interested in trying it out, first of all don’t be scared. You can always stop reading if you are not comfortable with the subject matter. There are many m/m authors out there that write amazing stories, that happen to have m/m romantic elements. There is contemporary, paranormal, western, etc.. and the level of romance or eroticism varies greatly. There are many great blogs out there devoted to mm books, two of my favorites are: Reviews by Jesswave
(www.reviewsbyjessewave.com) and Well Read (jenre-wellread.blogspot.com)

Smokinhotbooks:Can you share a little with me about your first m/m romance and how did you react? My first m/m expose was with Kate Douglas’s Wolf Tales, here I thought I was reading about werewolfs when all of the sudden one male wolf is dominating the other wolf to show his alpha status.  Next thing I read he forcefully dominating Mr. Beta Wolf and my eyes about buldged out of my head and I swore I had a minor heart arrhythmia. Because I was ill-prepared for this type of lovemaking I felt a bit traumatized. But, I will say, it made reading books that snuck in hardcore BDSM a breeze.

Mandi (Smexy):It was after I read JR Ward’s Black Dagger Brotherhood books, I realized I enjoyed the scenes with Vishous/Butch and Qhuinn/Blay. There was a thread set-up on her messsage boards called “manlove junkies” (still there if you want to check it out) and the thread was very active. I thought, well there must be something to m/m books! Someone on the thread was reading Heaven Sent by Jet Mykles so I decided to go for it and bought it. So I lost my “virgnity” to Johnnie and Tyler.

Smokinhotbooks: Is m/m romance as fulfilling as a female-male romance? How does the experience differ for the reader?
 
Mandi (Smexy): To me, m/m romance is just as fulfilling as m/f. It really is hard to say why. This is what I can come up with – I am not a huge contemporary romance fan, and I think it is because it is not “fantasy” enough for me. When I read, I want to escape..whether it is to the 1800′s, or present day but vamps and shifters are walking around. I am in a m/f relationship, so the m/m relationship is just different to me. It is something new, something unknown. And I find it hot when two men get together..especially two men that are both more alpha. I tend to shy away from the mm books where one of the males acts more feminine. But that is the great thing about mm books, there are tons of different styles out there!

Smokinhotbooks:What suggestions would you have for those of us who want to lightly dip our toe in the water and aren’t ready for a full-on maletopia, erotic experience?
 
 Mandi (Smexy):I would start with Josh Lanyon. He is not only one of my favorite m/m authors, but his stories are witty murder mysteries, with a hero that just happens to be gay. The romance usually takes a backseat to the murder investigations so those who are nervous about the sex scenes will have an easy transition. There IS sex, but usually only a couple of scenes. He has many books out, but I would suggest Somebody Killed his Editor, first in his Holmes and Moriarity series.
 
Smokinhotbooks: Can you give me any tips, or guidance on picking an author to start with?
 
Mandi (Smexy): Just do research before you start. Read reviews so you know what type of book you are getting into. My suggestion would be: Start with a Josh Lanyon, if you like it move on to L.B. Gregg. If you are still happy, try Chris Owen or something by JL Langley. 
 
Smokinhotbooks:What would be your list of fav m/m books?
 
Mandi (Smexy): Adrien English Series by Josh Lanyon is my favorite, but I love all his books.
Gobsmacked and Happy Endings
L.B. Gregg Bareback
9-1-1 by Chris Owen (9-1-1 is a m/m/m *waggles eyebrows*)
Wicked Gentlemen by Ginn Hale
Mexican Heat by Josh Lanyon
Laura Baumbach, My Fair Captain – JL Langley.
 
Mandi (Smexy) KC – thanks so much for having me!!  Here are is a link to my review of Somebody Killed his Editor And here is my review of LB Gregg’s Happy Endings.

Smokinhotbooks: I can’t thank Mandi enough for taking the time to answer some of my burning questions about this specific genre.  Even though she said she wasn’t an expert, *whisper* she is still one in my book.

Mandi makes an excellent point, that although this might be outside of my midwestern, methodist comfort zone, the whole reason we read these books is for the fantasy! Come on, who hasn’t dreamt of being in a hot, stud manwich, *raising hand high*.  I now venture to go where I have never gone before, to the x-treme games of romantic fantasies and pledge to read a m/m romance with an objective and open mind.

Mandi’s Smexybooks Ubber Kewl Blog: smexybooks.blogspot.com
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P.S. It took all my effort not to write this post with a Barbara Walters accent style.  Ever read m/m romance let me know what you think!

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24 Comments

  1. Hi KC and Mandi,
    First of all Mandi, I lost my virginity too with the stories of Heaven Sent, Jet Mykles LOL When I got intrigued by M/M romance I also checked out the thread in the library at Ward’s forum LOL While I liked Heaven Sent I read Chris Owen’s Bareback as my second M/M romance and was blown away, I have re-read that book like three times already since trying out the genre in May/June this year :D

    I’ve heard many a good thing about Erastes – Transgression and False Colors by Alex Beecroft and they will be my next M/M romance fix. What attracts me so in M/M romance is they have the same topics, struggles and difficulties as a m/f but a M/M relationship is innately different because it is between two men and men handle things differently.

    I really hope you will give this genre a go KC :D

  2. Leontine- Bareback is great! Such angst in that story :) Good point about men handling things differently!

  3. Hi- This tweet caught my eye. While I haven’t read much in the way of m/m romance, I have written about it. I have a m/m relationship involving one of my series’ main characters. I think its great-and I hope I have portrayed the relationship in a realistic and positive light.

    I am a fan of several shows with strong m/m relationship storylines. My fav at the moment is Forbidden Love (Germany). You can get clips on youtube.

  4. I lost my m/m virginity this past summer after reading a review for a K.A. Mitchell book (Chasing Smoke) on Dear Author. It was very complimentary and I was curious, so I went looking for the author on the Samhain site. Instead of CS, I found another title of hers, Regularly Scheduled Life, and the subject matter (how a school shooting affects the lives of a committed gay couple) really struck me. It’s rare that a romance makes me ache and eventually cry, but this one did. It was amazing. Over the summer, I’ve dipped into the rest of her backlist, and I can’t recommend her enough.

    I’m branching out into other authors as I see online reviews, so I’ll definitely be checking out those links!

  5. Hi Leontine
    I will for sure check out your suggestions :) I am slowly but surely trying to work myself up to full throttle m/m romance. By this year I hope to loose my virginity :) Thanks for stopping be!!

    Hi Kelly

    Thanks for your suggestions!!

    Hi Liz:
    Can you let me know the title of your book you wrote with m/m romance. I’d love to check it out sometime.

  6. Hi Mandi
    Good point about men handling things differently —> Leontine’s comment.

  7. You both did an awesome job of this interview. My first experience with M/M was with Amy Lane’s Vulnerable but it was more of a m/f/m, later books had m/m/f/m. LOL! But none the less it shocked me because I did not know that would be part of the book when I started the series. It didn’t bother me enough to stop reading the whole series though. But haven’t read any other books with m/m aspects except J.R. Ward’s.

    That all being said, I’m still on the side lines about M/M but it’s good know who I can come to when I’m ready to jump into the game. :)

  8. Hi Donna,
    I have read mainly m/f/m by Lora Leigh and some other erotic romance authors. But, I don’t believe the males touched one another at all… as for sitting on the sidelines I give myself a year to loose it (v-card) :)

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  10. My first forays into male/male romances were actually slash fanfics, but my first ever “real” book as it were was the Nightrunner series by Lynn Flewelling – a good series to try if you just want to dip your toes in as it is not very explicit and has lots of other adventure/fantasy type stuff going on as well. I’ve read and loved JL Langley (not for the faint-hearted, LOL!), Emily Veinglory, Barbara Sheridan and Anne Cain.

    I’m a hetero women, married, but love the fantasy of two men getting together. I don’t mind het romances, but het erotica turns me off for some reason but male/male erotica doesn’t.

  11. Hi Book Chick City

    I heart awards, thanks so much!

  12. Hi Annette,

    Thanks for your suggestions! It’s funny as to the different types of erotic/fantasy that seems to “push” our buttons. For me, bondage is like reading National Graphic, does absolutely nothing. Thanks for stoping by :)

  13. Ah, we differe there too, LOL! I like bondage in my fiction, but not sure I’d want to explore it in real life ;)

  14. Hi Annette,

    Who doesn’t want some hot stud tying us up… I think I have an issue with the whole real Dom vs Submissive hard core lifestyle. No clue why, must be my “control issues” maybe I need me a Dom wrangler :)

  15. I’ve been meaning to swing by this post and leave a comment or two. Thanks to Mandi’s suggestion I read L.B. Gregg’s Gobsmacked and I did enjoy it. I’m not sure the genre is for me since I really love to place myself in the story when reading romance and I don’t see where I fit in, in an m/m romance. See how I make it all about me? Clever huh?

    Anyway, I was intrigued by your mention of Kate Douglas’ Wolf Tales, so what did I do? I read it of course. O.M.G.! Someone pass the brain bleach. I can’t get the images out of my head. Man with a dog penis? *shudder* I have only myself to blame but I choose not to. I blame you, so there. LMBO!!!

    Oh and yes, I read the whole thing. What was I thinking?

  16. Fiction Vixen -
    Dear God Why did you read Kate Douglas Wolf Tales?! I warned you! (Shudder). I still haven’t lost my m/m virginity, I need to remedy this!

  17. Yes, I did, and I am so ashamed. So freakin’ gross. Totally your fault though and I’ll have to find a way for you to make it up to me. Something shiny will do I think.

    So thanks to Mandi, I’m no longer an m/m virgin and thanks to you I need therapy and lots of it. (Damn I’m make a good innocent victim) :D

  18. FV
    If I give you one of my rhinestones off my cow-girl shirt, does that count as something shiny? I take full responsibility for even uttering KD’s name. Notice how I’m totally enabling you…we’ll probably have to film you on A&E’s Intervention for self denail and your obsession with all things shiny. :)

  19. I’ll take that rhinestone with a side of cowboy please. And as for the A&E Intervention, I’m just vain enough to fall for that. Anything for 15 minutes of fame. :) Get your letter and tissues ready my friend, A&E is calling and I’m answering! (Please don’t tell them I read Wolf Tales ok? Please?)

  20. Girl scout’s honor, your secret Wolf Tales is safe with me. *whisper* we’ll tell A&E you have some other emotional problem or something sexy like pack rat syndrome. By God we’ll get your A&E 15 minutes of fame!